When my children were toddlers, recipe I was the one primarily responsible for bedtime preparations because of my husband’s work schedule. On the weekends and holidays, erectile when their daddy was home and taking an active role in household routines, check the girls would complain, “Daddy doesn’t do it right!” When I asked what they meant, they said, “Daddy doesn’t do it the same way you do!” I gently explained that there is no right or wrong way to do a lot of things. That different is just that—different. The girls accepted my explanation and quit complaining. But then I forgot my own lesson . . .
Fast forward a few years. It was time for my older daughter to start kindergarten. Our “trial” year had gone well. I researched kindergarten curriculum and finally chose one. My husband asked some questions to determine the soundness of the academic foundation it laid, and we ordered it. In the years since, we have changed curriculum and some ways of doing things. My husband continues to ask questions about the curriculum and the girls’ progress, and he even helps them with lessons when he is home. Despite all of this, I have become the “expert” on homeschooling at our house.
This seemed okay at first. After all, I’m the one with formal training as a teacher. Then one thing went horribly wrong.
I started thinking my opinion is the only one that matters.
I won’t rehash the ugly, but I’m sure you can imagine the way my attitude has negatively impacted our family because, until recently, I couldn’t handle the fact that my husband homeschools differently than I do.
I’m still working on this in my life. I’m allowing God to change my attitudes and, in turn, my actions. Proverbs 20:6 says, “Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?” (NIV1984). God has blessed me with a faithful man.
This Father’s Day, and every day, we need to make room for him in our homeschool.
As the head of our home, my husband has the right to be and needs to be actively involved, especially if he does things differently than I do. Where would our homeschool be without him? Dad is the one who takes the kids on a regular rotation of every park in town. He is the one who does some of the hands-on projects that I deem “too messy” or “gross.” Dad is the one who comes in with a fresh perspective on situations when the girls and I are too tired and frustrated to see all of our options. We desperately need him!
“Love . . . does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:3, 5 (NIV)
How do you keep other family members actively involved in your homeschool?